The Middle Years, Your Best Years - A Journey to Reinvention

Ah, the middle years! That magical time when we finally care more about what we’re thinking about more than caring what other people think, especially when it comes to them thinking about us. A time when we start prioritizing ourselves, hopefully and let’s be honest for most of us start to discover that Spanx are both a blessing and a curse, if you know, you just know! If you're a woman in her fabulous 50s, 60’s or beyond, you might be feeling a mix of freedom, uncertainty, and a slight obsession with collagen powder, face fillers and even vitamins vowing to keep us youthful.

But let me tell you something, my gorgeous, wise, and experienced friend, this is YOUR time. The middle years aren’t the beginning of the end, no, they’re the juicy, thrilling, I-finally-get-to-do-me years. This is your invitation to reinvent, reignite, and possibly even rediscover the sexy, powerful woman who’s been waiting for her moment to shine.

So grab a glass of something delicious (wine, matcha, tequila, no judgment here), and let’s talk about how you can make these years the best yet.

OK, this one is a must, I’m going to ask you to stop “Shoulding” all over yourselves, it’s messy and unnecessary. By now, you've spent decades being a good xxxxxx (fill in the blank, spouse, mother, daughter, friend, f++k buddy, you name it). You did what you "should", raised kids, built a career, supported a partner, and played by the rules. And while all of that is beautiful, you might be feeling a little… restless. Maybe even rebellious.

Good.

This is the time to stop living according to what society, your family, or your 25-year-old Self, thought you "should" do. Ask yourself this:

•    What actually makes me happy?

•    What have I always wanted to try but never had the guts to?

•    If I could wake up tomorrow and be living my dream life, what would it look like?

Maybe it’s time to start painting again, take a solo trip to Italy (I don’t know why I said Italy, oh yes I do, because it’s filled with romantic notions, delicious food and one of my dreamy places to visit), or finally learn to salsa dance (with a sexy instructor, of course). Maybe you’re ready to change careers, start your own business, or move to a city that excites you.

Your middle years are your permission slip to rewrite the script. The only person you need to impress is yourself.

Listen, sexy isn’t about fitting into your jeans from 1992 (though if you can, I salute you). Sexy is confidence, energy, and owning your space like a queen.

It’s about feeling good in your skin, whether that means rocking a bold red lip, walking into a room like you own it, or finally tossing the ugly beige underwear in favor of something that makes you feel irresistible. (Yes, even if no one else sees it. You’ll know!)

And let’s talk about pleasure, in every sense of the word.

•    Eat the food that makes your taste buds dance, (in moderation of course).

•    Move your body in ways that feel good, not punishing, think of it like dancing with nobody watching.

•    Explore new ways to feel alive, whether it’s deep conversations, adventure, or, ahem, a little romance.

Sexy is a mindset, not a dress size. The more you embrace pleasure and confidence, the more magnetic you become.

We’ve all got them, those people who suck the life out of us faster than a bad Wi-Fi signal. The ones who drain your energy, make you doubt yourself, or keep you stuck in old patterns.

No more.

Your middle years are prime real estate, and not everyone deserves a lease in your life. Start noticing who lifts you up and who drags you down. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh, dream bigger, and remind you just how damn amazing you are.

And while you’re at it, let’s talk about the stories you tell yourself.

•    "I’m too old to start over." Nope.

•    "It’s too late for me to find love, success, or adventure." Absolutely not.

•    "I should (there goes that “should” again) just settle and be grateful." Uh-uh, not on my watch.

You are not too old, and it is not too late. Rewrite the narrative. You get to choose what happens next.

The beauty of this stage of life is You’ve earned the right to stop apologizing for wanting more. More joy, more success, more passion, more You time.

•    Want to invest in yourself? Do it.

•    Want to spend more time on things that bring you joy? Prioritize it.

•    Want to finally go after that wild dream? Hell yes.

This is your time to go all in on YOU. The younger version of yourself worked hard to get you here, now it’s time to live.

If you take nothing else from this, know this: The middle years are NOT the end of your story, they’re the start of the best chapters.

It’s time to stop waiting, stop doubting, and start owning the woman you’ve become.

Now, go out there and live it up, gorgeous. Your best years? They’re happening right now.

With love and a little mischief,

Coach Jeanette

P.S. Need a little help letting go of the Old You and Reinventing your middle years? Let’s chat. Visit https://coachjeanette.com/book-a-call and let’s create your next, most fabulous chapter together.